News from Our Parish Nurse
Family Stress and
Coping
Stress
affects us as individuals and as a family. Distress (what we usually think of
when we use the word stress) refers to the potentially harmful responses to
pressure. Stressors (that which trigger the stress response) can include
anything from vacations, work demands, financial constraints, health problems,
or conflict with another person. Our life today seems to be full of stressors
and distress (or stress). When one person in the family is affected by
stressors, this in turn has an effect on many other aspects of family life.
Stress in
the family is related to many different factors. First, the roles of men and
women have been changing. In many families, both adults work outside the home.
Secondly, many families are caring for both young children and older parents.
Third, many families live apart from all other family members and fourth, the
busyness of daily life leaves little time or energy to
invest in our families. Fifth, financial concerns continue to be a major cause
of family conflict. When we think about the severity and frequency of these
pressures, we can’t help but be moved by the support
the family usually offers.
There are several positives things Christian families can do to improve
their ability to cope with stressors. First,
we can place Jesus as the head of our family (“we will in all things grow up
into Him who is the Head, that is Christ” Eph. 4: 15). Secondly, we can pray
for the Lord’s guidance for our family, and pray for one another. Third, we can
trust that our family can handle the pressures, with the help of God. If we
feel totally helpless, then we can’t mobilize the
resources we need to tackle our problems. Often, workable solutions are within
our grasp! Fourth, we can develop a realistic plan for resolving our problems,
and stick with it. It is important to include in the development of the
plan, everyone who will be affected by it. Fifth, we can seek outside help when
we need it. Seeking social support and other outside help is a sign of family
strength, because it means we are committed to conquering our problems.
~ Carol Hough, Parish
Nurse
Carol’s church office hours are Wednesday from 9 AM to Noon. Take
advantage of her skills and care! They are free to us as a church family and
community.